Finding a Psychotherapist

Finding a psychotherapist can be a challenge. Ideally someone you know can make a recommendation. If not, find out how much experience the person has, that’s a good starting point. Then, give them an outline of your problem and listen carefully to their responses. It can be helpful to state the problem in exactly the same way to several people, and to take notes on their responses. This can give you good guidance in choosing. Finally, it matters greatly that you simply feel comfortable with the person you’re talking to.

You might also benefit from reading the Consumer Reports study on the effectiveness of  Drugs vs Talk Therapy, based on the responses of several thousand subscribers.

You can talk to me. Don’t hesitate to call.  Talk to me, evaluate me relative to a few others.

You can also get details of my background on the psychotherapy page at my website, .

I have an office in Chelsea (25 Street near 6th Avenue), and an office in Brooklyn Heights (Court Street near Montague Street). Both are easily accessible.

If you would like to discuss an appointment, or if you have any questions for me, please just call me.   You can call me between 8 am and 9 pm at 917-202-5148.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Sincerely,  Donald Fleck DCSW

What is a mindful psychotherapist?

Some say it’s Ram Dass healing with the palm of his hand placed on the client’s chest.

Some say it’s a psychotherapist teaching the client to meditate.

Some say it’s simply a psychotherapist who her/him self is mindful.

My understanding is that:

A mindful psychotherapist uses elements of meditation when it is helpful in the therapy session.

A mindful psychotherapist understands that emotional pain is part of life, as much as joy and contentment.  In psychotherapy we reduce emotional pain as much as possible, that’s a priority. Then, a goal becomes changing our relationship to the suffering that remains.

A mindful psychotherapist understands that peace lies just below the surface for many people, and meditation can help them get in touch with it.

A mindful psychotherapist understands that talk can sometimes be counterproductive, and knows when to introduce mindful pauses for the benefit of the client.

A mindful psychotherapist has her or his own meditation practice, and embodies it in the therapy session.

A mindful psychotherapist uses her or his own mindfulness to tune in to the whole experience of the client.

A mindful psychotherapist has a view on life that cultivates and values experience in the moment, as it occurs.

A mindful psychotherapist understands that the mindful approach is one of many, and will be better for some clients than for others. That is why it is helpful always to be flexible, always to put the needs of the client before the clinician’s orientation.

I would like to thank the members of the monthly Friday Morning NYC “Meditative Therapists” group for the thoughtful discussions we have had on this subject. They have been most helpful, and the above reflects many of their ideas.

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